Do you struggle with decluttering your kid's stuff because you might use it one day?
Or you paid good money for it? Or you're afraid you'll forget about it?
Well you are in good company because that is exactly the conundrum this week's guest is in.
Meet Alicia. Mom to 4 kids, ages 7 1/2 to 3 months. She wants to declutter her home. She thinks the 1700 square feet they live in SHOULD be enough but there is just too much stuff.
On the flip side, Alicia admits she struggles with letting items go. It could be that she places more emotional attachment on them than she probably should. What's a mom to do?
Here are some bullet points from my chat with Alicia:
- Alicia’s #1 pain point is dealing with all the kids stuff in her house. Part of her struggle comes both from her putting extra sentiment on items that maybe shouldn’t be so sentimental. Also, she hates getting rid of toys or clothes that she spent money and time on. And often those items could be used by her younger kids.
- She did find when she took away a bulk of the excess toys, her kids didn’t seem to mind or really notice. I think is often true for many parents. If you think so, write it down or find some way to remind yourself the next time you have a birthday or holiday. Keep the reminder some place you will see it when you are tempted to go overboard
- When you start tackling decluttering for kids’ stuff, try to involve them in the process. But make sure it is in small ways like cleaning out their backpack or one drawer at a time. Working small will help prevent decision fatigue for both you and them.
- It is also easier to declutter the things that mean the least to you first. In Alicia’s case, this may mean starting with current toys or the toys she packed away versus stuffed animals and baby clothes.
- Also, if you are struggling to decide what to keep for future children, ask yourself “am I going to stop shopping because I have these things?” Or "what if my younger child doesn’t want or like this and I stored it all this time.” Or “would I wear my baby clothes if my mom brought them to me?”
- Also, it is very important to focus on WHY you are wanting make this change to help make your decisions easier. Alicia said getting her space in order is a high priority and that she has a visceral reaction to seeing clutter in her home.
- She needs to remind herself of that when she is struggling with keeping too much. Alicia is fully aware that some of the stuff she needs to pare down in her house is kept because she is emotionally attached to it. But she is going to work on alternative ways that take up less space to keep those items in her memory. For instance, she could create books of her kids special clothes, stuffed animals and artwork versus keeping the actual items.
Here are links to some of the products Alicia and I discussed during the episode:
- Artkive for creating books of your memories (kid's clothes, art work, and really anything that can be photographed). Use promo code ssorganizing at check out for $15 off.
- 101 Clutter-Free Gifts: And Why You Want Them is my book all about the joy of giving without giving (or receiving) more clutter.
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BLACKBERRY KOMBUCHA GIN FIZZ
From Baked Greens
- 4-6 large blackberries (about 1/4 cup)
- 4-6 fresh mint leaves
- juice of half a lime
- 1 ounce (2 Tablespoons) gin
- 8 ounces ginger kombucha
- ice, to fill your glass
Put blackberries, mint leaves, and lime juice into a 16-ounce glass. Use a muddler or the handle of a wooden spoon to crush the berries and mint. Add enough ice to fill the cup, then pour in the gin and kombucha. Stir to combine, and drink immediately.
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