Do you live your best mom life during the holidays?
Ever suffer from mom guilt, stress or mom shame during the holidays? Well, we have ideas on collaboration and delegation that can help. Today we kick off our Holiday Organizing Series with Agile Home Specialist and Family Scrum Master Yvonne Marcus.
Yvonne is on a mission using agile project management to help moms develop flexible home management solutions that leave them with more time for themselves, happier families, less money spent, and a more productive week.
WHAT DOES “AGILE” MEAN?
What exactly is agile project management? According to wrike.com, “… agile project management puts the focus more on team collaboration and less on hierarchical leadership. The goal is to embrace flexibility and continuous improvement ultimately resulting in a better end product.” Think the old school TEAM acryonym: together everyone accomplishes more.
But it isn’t just about what you achieve, it’s about taking the load off one person, using a team member’s strengths, and developing a confidence that everyone on the team matters. Here is the TedTalk from Bruce Feiler about using agile programming in your home that Yvonne references during the episode:
TIPS TO LIVE YOUR BEST MOM LIFE DURING THE HOLIDAYS
When you use the agile techniques Yvonne discusses in the episode, you not only involve the whole house in developing goals and expectations but you set your kids up to develop skills for contributing to their households when they are on their own.
Looking to keep stress low during the holidays? Start by evaluating your holiday traditions. Determine which are truly important for you to maintain and do not add to your holiday enjoyment. Hone in on those activities that bring you and your family joy.
Also, ask for input from your family about what they would like to do during the holidays. You could run yourself ragged doing all the things you THINK they want to do. But what they want to do is much simpler or less exhausting. And remember including the likes and wants of your kids helps them build the confidence that their opinion is important and valid.
Remember to set firm boundaries and stick to them. If you have trouble saying no on the spot, say “I need to check my calendar” to buy yourself some time.
Yvonne also recommends you agile your holiday by delegating tasks to members that they feel good about. This will help alleviate some of the tasks on your to-do list. Other members of your house love to contribute, especially if it is something they love to do and feel confident doing.
“When someone self assigns a task, they really take ownership of it. And it gets done so much better than it does by someone who doesn’t care to do it.”YVONNE MARCUS
And finally, don’t forget to spend time on self-care during the holidays. Whether it’s meditating 10 minutes a day, reading a book or going to lunch with a girlfriend, fill up your holiday cup so you can fill everyone else’s.
CONNECT WITH YVONNE
You can also grab my “12 Days of Christmas Prep” worksheet to follow along and check off what you’ve done starting Friday, November 1st.
Spiced Apple Margaritas
Honey Simple Syrup
- 1/4 C. Honey
- 1/4 C. Water
Cinnamon Sugar Salted Rim
- 1 tsp Sugar
- 1 tsp Salt
- 1/4 tsp Cinnamon
- Lime Wedge
Spiced Apple Margarita
- 2 oz Reposado Tequila
- 1 1/2-2 oz Apple Juice or Apple Cider
- 3/4 oz Lime Juice
- 1 tsp Honey Simple Syrup
- First, prepare the honey simple syrup by combining the water and honey in a small saucepan. Warm over medium heat, stirring frequently, just until the honey is dissolved in the water. Remove pan from heat and set aside.
- On a small plate, use a fork to blend the sugar, salt and cinnamon. Run a wedge of lime around the top of each drinking glass, then turn the glass down at a 45-degree angle and roll the top of the glass through the cinnamon, sugar and salt blend. Fill the glasses with ice and set them aside.
- Fill a cocktail shaker with ice. Feel free to make 2 to 3 drinks at once. Pour in the tequila, apple juice or cider, lime juice, honey simple syrup and cinnamon. Put on the lid and shake the cocktail for about 20 seconds. Strain the cocktail into the prepared glass(es)
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